As most of you know, I’m going through a difficult situation right now, and it’s not something I can go into. But let’s suffice it to say, it demands a lot of my focus and attention. Thursday afternoon, I was on the phone a lot. Then in the evening, I had to type out my side of the story to get ready for a meeting I have coming up. Then I sent it to my husband so that he can make his superiors in the military aware of the situation. I got little sleep, did a lot of crying, and spent a lot of time online with my husband talking about what’s going on. One thing I had decided was that I wasn’t going to lie down and let this just happen to me and my family. Thursday was spent seeking advice on how to deal with things. Friday was dedicated to doing what I needed to in order to get the ball rolling.
So yesterday (Friday) I spent half the day on my phone. I then recorded what I did, what was said, and the outcome from the call. Today is Saturday, so for this weekend, things won’t progress. But Monday morning, I will go down and get copies of forms I had filled out early that will help support my side of the story because I am sure the person who is causing problems has lied on an important part of the story, and if I can get that proof, it helps my side.
I’m not saying I’ll win. I might lose this one. But I’ll know I did everything I possibly could to win. I was thinking that’s really the difference. It’s why I feel better this morning. There are some factors I can’t control. However, by doing something offensive (instead of staying in defense mode), I do feel a lot better. I don’t know what the outcome will, but at least I can say I did everything I could.
This is not a plug for my book, but I am mentioning it here because it fits. When I wrote Falling In Love With Her Husband, the heroine spent a couple of months stuck in defense mode. She was so overwhelmed by fear that she couldn’t do anything but react. Then one day, she realized she had enough and decided it was time to change how she responded to her fears. She got active; she got offensive. She learned how to protect herself. I wrote this book a couple years back, and at the time, I thought what does someone do to resolve a situation where they really don’t have full control of the outcome? I figured the most logical choice was for the person to do whatever was in their power (legally, of course) to protect him/herself.
Why is that book on my mind? A reader happened to mention that book in an email on Wednesday, and I thought, “I haven’t read that book for awhile. I think I’ll read it again.” Granted, I wrote it, but the whole purpose of writing is so I’ll have books I want to read. Selfish motive, but it’s the truth. 🙂
This morning, I got to the part where the heroine took measures to protect herself, and I paid attention to how this was explained as she worked through the thought process that led her to taking action. It was very inspiring and only confirmed what I started. Like the heroine, I have concluded it’s better to be active (offensive) than stuck in fear (defensive). Once the shock wears off, it’s time to get moving.
So I’m passing that along in case anyone else needs to be lifted up, should they be going through something painful.