You Can’t Have It All

The phrase “You can’t have it all” has been going around and around in my head for the past couple of weeks. My mother used to say it when I was a child. I haven’t really thought much about it, but as I realized how much I was juggling, it occurred to me that this phrase sums up why I’ve been feeling overwhelmed for the past month.

I’ve been trying to have it all. I’ve been trying to spend sufficient time with my family and homeschool my youngest because those are priorities. Then I’ve been trying to manage the writing aspect of my life, and that includes the business side of things like record keeping of expenses and social networking. Add on that just the basic running of a home and other things that inevitably pop up in life, and I was hurling toward another round of burnout. I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to embrace my limitations.

Over the past week, I’ve been working through a list of what I need to keep and in what order those things fit. Then I started crossing off the stuff that needs to go. So this is the new plan, which I hope will help me find the proper balance.

The first thing I’m doing is cutting back on writing. I’m not going to stress a daily word count anymore. I’m going to give myself a set time to write early in the mornings. When that time is up, I will go to homeschooling. I was trying to sneak in writing between breaks in the homeschool day, but I really need to stop that because it’s left me feeling frazzled.

Non-writing tasks will have to be done on days I don’t schedule to write. I will still be making these blog posts because I love blogging. Facebook, MeWe, and emails, however, will be sporadic. I dropped everything else. I know the changes I’m making will upset some people, but I’ve been stretching myself too thin. If I don’t scale back, I’m going to crash and burn. Then I won’t be writing at all because it’s impossible for me to write during burnout.

I want to keep writing because that has always brought me joy. I’m not sure what my output will look like for next year. I have no idea what books will be out and when. I’m just going to take each book as it comes and do the best I can to tell a good story. I want to have fun with what I’m writing. I’m a firm believer that a story that a writer loves writing is the very best possible story it can be, and I want to honor everyone by giving you my best.

About Ruth Ann Nordin

Ruth Ann Nordin mainly writes historical western romances and Regencies. From time to time, she branches out to other genres, but her first love is historical romance. She lives in Omaha, Nebraska with her husband and a couple of children. To find out more about her books, go to
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8 Responses to You Can’t Have It All

  1. Maria Lipscomb says:

    I hear you about dealing with too many issues.
    However I do love your books have read all your present series. And thank you for letting us know when the next books are coming
    Have a great holiday time.
    God Bless and be safe.

  2. Stephannie says:

    Balance is key to not getting worn out, overwhelmed, or burned out. Take the time that you need to tell the story that you want to tell. We’ll wait patiently…somewhat patiently…for the next book. πŸ˜€

  3. Balance in your life is important to a good story. I can always tell books written by burnt out authors.. it;s like they’re missing a soul, if that makes sense. Do what you need to do and if upsets someone, oh well, lol!

  4. Susan A Layton says:

    You have to do what is best for you. I love your books, but I am also one that realizes (as some fans don’t seem to or at least don’t want to acknowledge) that authors do have lives and families and things have to be prioritized. You can’t burn the candle at both ends and stretch yourself too thin to please others. Your health and well being (both physical and mental) have to come first.

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