N is for No

In my time zone, it’s right before midnight, so I can send it out and catch up.  Tomorrow (Monday), I’ll get to “O”.


You have every right to say no.

n is for no

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Today’s post is for the writer’s psychological well-being.

It is okay to say no.  I know, I know.  This is common sense.  But I think it’s worth saying because sometimes we need to hear this.  I know I do.  Even thought I “know” it’s okay to say no, sometimes I’ll feel guilty for saying it.  After all, someone who came to me for a favor is only asking a small thing and I really like this person so I should say yes.  I’d feel like a total jerk if I said no, even if I state it politely and explain why.

I don’t know how many of you feel the same way, but I don’t think I’m alone.  I bet you have good reasons for saying no, but you can still get caught up in the trap of feeling guilty.  But the truth is, you can’t extend yourself to the point where you aren’t able to do what you do best: write.  Writing is our priority.  If we don’t write, we don’t get our book out.

When you are struggling to make time to write, it’s time to cut back.  Knowing what to cut back is the hard part.  In the next post, I’ll try to explain when you should say no.

For this post, suffice it to say that the writer’s first job is to write.  I think non-writers don’t understand that writing is something most of us have to do.  Writing chose us; we didn’t choose it.  We write because the stories are in our heads, and those stories won’t stop until they’re on paper.  It’s not an obsession, exactly, but it’s definitely something that weighs down on us until we do it.  If we don’t write, we’re not pleasant people to be around.

Writing is the best thing we can do for our sanity.  Believe me, you don’t want to be around me when I’ve gone without writing for several days.  So really, saying no to other things so you can write is being kind to yourself and others who have to live with you. 🙂

This post is part of the Blogging from A – Z Challenge.

About Ruth Ann Nordin

Ruth Ann Nordin mainly writes historical western romances and Regencies. From time to time, she branches out to other genres, but her first love is historical romance. She lives in Omaha, Nebraska with her husband and a couple of children. To find out more about her books, go to https://ruthannnordinsbooks.wordpress.com/.
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6 Responses to N is for No

  1. wilabea94 says:

    –Thanks for the visit to my blog; I’m returning the favor. You seem to have an equally busy life balancing home/kids/hubby/household/writing/work etc., and congratulations on publishing so many books! This post is very well stated! I’ve been saying yes to too many things, and it’s taking a toll. Thanks for the reminder that’s it’s ok to JUST SAY NO. I was reading something recently (on the great time-suck known as Facebook) about teaching our daughters certain things, and one was something like, You don’t need to give an excuse to anyone. – For me, I tried that out along with my “No.” I just said no, and then didn’t offer an excuse, I just let my no stand. And you know what? The other person didn’t ask! HA HA HA

    • I hear you! And yes, I started just saying “no” and leaving it at that. I was shocked by how many people didn’t expect me to explain anything to them. I always thought I had to offer a reason, but once I realized I didn’t, it was like a weight was lifted from my shoulders. I guess sometimes we can make things more complicated than they need to be. 🙂

  2. Yes! I know all about the guilt!

  3. Oh, the guilt! I have the hardest time saying no. And that’s why I sometimes get myself in a bind not knowing how I’ll be able to do everything.

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